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I thought I had a good relationship with my adult kids, but I am so alone, have some disabilities and zero friends. My kids and I text periodically but I don't know what's really going on with them. Their father was abusive to me and our son, but I kept my son safe from him. My daughter's never saw their father's bad behavior except maybe a few times. I think I became lost within myself. We separated, then divorced. I've had multiple surgeries and am waiting for another spinal surgery. I don't know how to talk to my kids anymore. I've tried to get them to open up, but we're all very different from each other. I desperately need a friend. I havent found the right therapist or doctor. I have never felt so lost and alone. I have suffered with severe insomnia since 2019...it's now 2025...is there anyone out there that can relate? Thank you for anyone's time.

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Hi Robn3,
I'm sorry that you are so alone and your kids aren't helping you with your surgery coming up too. Plus the stress of a divorce and insomnia. That's very sad.
I know about being alone since my husband died a year ago last July. He had lung cancer. Plus my son hasn't contacted me in 30 years. I follow him on X but I don't communicate with him. I know he wouldn't answer anyway. But at least I know if he's still alive. It's very hard to cope with loneliness. I have a few friends but they are all busy with their lives so they don't have much time. I spend much of my time cleaning my house and going to the grocery store and the bank. I also pray a lot and it helps. God answers my prayers.

I'd love to communicate with you! I may not be too interesting but at least you won't feel so alone; and neither will I.

What kind of surgeries did you have? That must have been very hard on your body. Even one surgery is hard on someone's body. I'm lucky in that all I have wrong with me at age 79 is incontinence which is problematic in itself but nothing really life threatening.

I will say a prayer for you that things get better for you and your kids start to realize that they have a Mom who loves them.
I wish you the best.
PML