Surf is UP !!!! @@

Sending prayers your way

I hope all went well. Best wishes for a speedy recovery to your husband.

Hope all went well. Your husband may not be lucky when it comes to this crap, but he’s damned lucky to have YOU in his life! 😘 Best,
Phil

Agree 100% 🙂

New here. My husband’s surgery is in 3 weeks after 2.5 years of active surveillance. I see I am not alone in the waiting getting to be excruciating. I hope your hubbys surgery went well and please any tips on how you survived those 4 hours are welcome. As of now no kids or family coming to be with me. My husband is not comfortable sharing it all. Maybe as we get closer. Anyway I am feeling you right now. From what all has been posted it almost seems like this day, today, might be the worst. ❤️

Hi to all 💖 !!!
SO SORRY for being MIA - one would not believe it, but Silicon Valley top hospital had trouble with Wi-Fi connection, or at least I had trouble making a connection yesterday :/ and the day before I hardly had connection with "this realm" due to events that ensued.
Surgery was postponed for about 1:30 hours (did not start at noon) and than lasted "forever" :(. I was getting text notifications and he was "in recovery" room at 5:30 but I could not go to him until he was in regular room and that happened at 7:30 pm ...
When we came to him he was VERY groggy and managed to awake somewhat around 11 pm but than insisted of getting up (*sigh ) and when he stood up he got rally dizzy since his BP fell to like 73 over 59 ( was 90 over 65 before he got up). He was promptly put back to bed and I was than having all kind of "thoughts " in my overactive brain (from internal bleeding possibility to his nervous system malfunction due to such long anesthesia period) - ANYHOW - at the end it turned out that he lost quite amount of blood during surgery, but of course, nobody volunteered that info : /. (??) His RBC fell from 4,600 to 3,400 and hematocrit also.
Visitation hours were over by 10 PM but nurses let us stay since we were tending to him and they could take care of other patients. Since he was sound asleep after midnight we went to a hotel room. I, of course, could not sleep and was staring at the ceiling while listening to crazy sounds of "night life" in the center of a major city, with police and ambulances passing every 30 min and gangsta 100 decibel music crawling slowly and purposefully down the street every 20 min with room windows vibrating dangerously close to braking. Around 3:30 am I heard tiny chime sound emitting from my phone and I jumped to see what is going on, fearing that there is an emergency of some kind but it was my dear groggy hubby proudly announcing that he passed the gas and was congratulated by nurses LMAO and that he took a walk down to nurse's station and is now safely back in bed and will have a "nap". I finally relaxed and fell in deep slumber for about 3 hours when garbage trucks awoke me with clanking and banging down the street, but it was time to get up anyway and run to the hospital again to make sure poor dear creature eats something 🥰.

Morning situation : BP still little bit low, about 95/70, shoulder was hurting BAD but no other pain at all. He said "zero pain"(according to him) around belly incisions and everything else felt fine. After breakfast we helped him get up (help was consisting of helping to tie his gown in the back and putting a robe on and making sure he does not get dizzy ) and he took a decent walk down corridors. That repeated after a lunch with much longer walk and visiting open terrace in hospital where he enjoyed fresh OCEAN breeze ; ) and that was the best therapy that he could have - I saw sparkle in his eyes and his whole body relaxed in an instant. BUT, shoulder pain was really bad still : ((. Gas in his belly was pushing his lungs up and he could not take very deep breaths so his oxygen was not optimal : (, and since his RBC was low and hemoglobin also low he was little bit shaky still, would not admit it, of course. Around 4 pm it was decided that he is OK to go home. We got bunch of "goodies" from nurses to bring home (5 extra bags, disposable hygiene wipes, extra bag-trays, bed pads, butt cushion, etc etc), so I do not know if they were so generous because my DD and me were so helpful lol or they were just happy to get rid of us and my super vigilance ( I would not blame them !) 😜 ? lol
We came home around 7 pm, he had a dinner and tea and dozed off in his favorite armchair watching nature documentaries.
This morning - BP normal, 123/ 72, oxygen 94, shoulder pain gone completely. He had oatmeal for breakfast, lots of herbal tea and is at the moment napping listening to jazz music : )))). His shoulder pain was literary gone by morning so he is not taking Tylenol and Ibuprofen any more. In the hospital he was given one Oxy before the trip home so he would be more comfortable in the car for 2 hours during rush hour.
Me- I am not going to talk about "my state of being" 😂 - you know what - "per aspera ad astra" , so be it ; ))) !!! I am happy at the moment and moment is a loooonnnnggg thing , depending of how you perceive it.
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THANK YOU ALL for supporting and for all your good vibes, prayers, comforting words and caring 🤗 !!! 💖 HUGSSSSSSSSS !!!!

Anybody who plans to have a surgery please ask whatever you wish to know about it in more detail !!! I am sure I forgot to mention many details that might interest you.

Glad to hear you are both home! 🙂 Your husband seems to be doing okay and I hope his healing continues. 🙂 Take care of yourself in this process as well 🙂 Now you get to wrangle that awful Cath for at least a week. Bleechh.

Thanks for the update! It's good to hear he got through it okay and you're both home. Best wishes for a speedy and complete recovery!

This is all awesome information for others about to go through this. The more others know what to expect or could happen....

The passing gas thing is a big deal in hospital because it lets them know that the digestive system is waking up & starting to work again - hence the staff's excitement. They usually don't let the patient go home until they've passed gas & are are confident that everything's starting to get back to normal.
During surgery, they put gas in to push organs out of the way, to get better access to the prostate.
When he stands up, that gas makes its way up & can result in shoulder pain.

Walking is the key, now. Because his insides have been shoved around, they need to slurp their way back to their original positions. That's what gravity & walking are for.

Next is plenty of rest, walking when he can & your life revolves around the catheter for the next couple of weeks. It can be tricky trying to sleep with the catheter. But it's only for a while.
Sounds like he's doing great.

Glad to hear. Surgery is so much harder for the family. I just started counting backwards, then knew nothing during the 10+ hours my family was waiting for news during my emergency spinal surgery (longer, actually, because they didn't know it had been delayed by a couple of hours).