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Most of us have experienced fear and loneliness, anger, depression, resentment, the whole list. We took are snowbirds or at this point I should say I am. I took my husband with me for as many years as I could. The last time was three years ago. I drove to Key Largo and then flew home and flew back with him. At this point the challenges are just too great and I can no longer do it. He resides in nursing care since January. Disagreeing with him or correcting him only leads to anger and frustration for both of us. It took time to learn not to but you will get there. Just remember it isn't him it's the disease. Having a specific diagnosis also helps eliminate some of the fear by learning what to expect. It seems to me that a diagnosis of MCI just means he isn't far enough along for the actual diagnosis. It's like Parkinsonism. Waiting for things to get worse so you can figure out the name of the road you already know you are on.

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No one has ever said your words “MCI just means he isn’t far enough along for the actual diagnosis.” I can’t tell you what those words mean to me. I have lived for years seeing the changes but no one has really explained it to me like you did. Now I realize he is in the stages, to agree and have patience is my first priority to understand. He knows he can’t remember words etc but I just say everyone forgets. Thank you thank you again. Jean