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My Dad was just diagnosed with metastatic prostate cancer
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Thank you so much for writing your story! I had to fly home today and my heart broke! My Dad is 87 and my mom has Alzheimer’s and lives in a nursing home. They have been married 70 yrs! Dad does pee a lot but the only pain he has is his thighs.. He also has lesions all over and in his lungs. All of a sudden his walking is so unstable that’s what scares me more falling. I took him to the VA to apply for anything! I also have great faith that GOD is always with him, we had many talks good and bad about cancer. He also is on palliative care, no chemo because of age and he is just on bicalutamide and relugolix. Not sure about injections or pill? His next appt. Is with another oncologist in a week. I told him to just try to enjoy everyday and we are working on getting him a small motorhome to take a trip! I will be praying for you and your husband and GODs grace and peace
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@sunflower64, I'm glad that your father is in the care of palliative experts. Palliative care is sometimes referred to as comfort care. They will keep him comfortable.
How is he doing? How did the last oncology appointment go? How are YOU doing?
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I feel your pain, my father in-law had dementia for years near the end too and my mother in law had a bad heart (pacemaker), it was really hard in the end, she got worse and worse and was in and out of the hospital. I'd go to the hospital, meanwhile my husband had to be with his dad, because grandpa could wander off or had no idea what's going on. (and he's a retired doctor! - so sometimes he could have full detailed conversations about her medical situation, then the other minute he's asking my husband what his job is 20 times or whatever)
When grandma passed away, we had to tell grandpa about 3 different ways, he was just sad, not crying, but just sad, didn't really talk anymore either.
He even got to hold his wife's hand or touch her hand and he perked up a minute and looked at her and then lowered his head and sat there so sadly. He passed away 9 days later!
They were both in their 90s and toward the end when he was talking, he told her that it's ok to die, that he would die soon after her! and he was right!
My mom passed away overseas (I'm from Denmark) she was in a nursing home and her health was bad but got worse at the beginning of the year and after my husband's diagnosis, she passed away 2 weeks later, I didn't get to fly over to see her, but she was in the hospital (again) and I got a nurse to hold the phone to her ear and I knew she was unresponsive but I told her I loved her and it's ok to die and then hung up and 5 min later the hospital called that she had passed away!
Death is a strange thing!
We got all 3 cremated and now have 3 trees in our yard where we put the ashed in the dirt next to the roots. 2 trees on one side of the house for my in-laws and one tree on the other side for my mom! I told my husband he better fight this because I'm not starting a collection!!