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Son estranged due to controlling spouse
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So much pain! My son ghosted me a couple of months ago. While I am sure
his wife has been encouraging him in this direction for the many years they have been together, I blame them both equally. They live in another city from where we reside and, until this estrangement, we would FaceTime with the 2 little ones every week. No more, and I miss them so terribly. Additionally, they lived within an easy day's drive of us, but have now moved much further away and live in the same small town as my daughter-in-law's family. She has tried to convince him to move there for many years to be near her Daddy. Our older son suffered with schizophrenia and took his own life a dozen years ago; it appears that our younger son never fully grieved his brother's loss, and the entire family is now paying the price. I have been seeing a wonderful therapist for many years now. But nothing can take the pain away. I try to remember his admonition not to give my son and DIL so much control over my life.
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Hi Yogamom,
I'm sorry that your son is treating you this way! And you can't even see your little grandchildren on the computer anymore! That is so sad! It's hard when children turn away from their parents and then your other son committed suicide. You have been through so much! My son hasn't contacted me in 20 years and I'm not sure why. We had no disagreement. He just refused to call or visit. It really hurt me. But what I finally did was give him back to God. I told God that I couldn't do anything with him and that maybe God could straighten him out. It made me feel free and like I could live my life for me without feeling sad and lonely on every holiday. I do look him up on X just to see if he is dead or alive, but I don't communicate with him. I also pray a lot and God has helped me a lot. My husband recently died and God has helped me get through this time. Praying might help you also. God loves us and is always there for us. I'll say a prayer for you also.
I wish you the best.
PML