Thank you so much for these insights and sharing how your family is dealing with these issues ! I feel like I need to plug in with an orthopedic doctor and further investigate the possibility of soft tissue and muscle injury, which my PT has already suggested might be a factor. We started renovating a house. I am 62 and not used to that much repetitive bending, lifting, climbing stairs. I had some shoulder and neck pain but that went away fairly soon but the hips, hamstrings, were excruciating. My initial inflammatory labs, sed rate , crp, ck that looks at muscle damage were normal but when they did the ANA antibody test it came back elevated and that is what is leading to all the further autoimmune testing. To your suggestion I feel that an ortho consult makes sense. They told me that X-rays would not show muscle damage.
I am very hopeful the CBT therapy can help me with the anxiety side of this. I k ow it is interfering with my life and general health as well as my ability to heal.