I'm in such a messed up boat. Had a stroke March 15th and during all its testing is when they found my left neck lymph node was pretty big. After getting out of the hospital I was sent for a biopsy of the lymph node, my tonsils and base of tongue. Only the lymph node came back positive for hpv cancer. They still opted to do tors surgery because of a raised area on the base of my tongue. Nothing was positive other than my lymph node. Removed tonsils, adenoids, and tor surgery on the base of tongue. It's been nearly 3 weeks since and I'm still in pain daily and alot worse when swallowing. Today was my oncologist appointment and they recommended radiation and chemo. Before today I have been told by mostly all medical staff I wouldn't need either and that tors would remove it all. I'm devastated. I've only just turned 40 in May and am ok health wise. But I am beyond scared. I watched my mother wither away from radiation and chemo. And again, I also went through this severe throat pain twice already. It's so bad. Now they say radiation will be like a bad sunburn inside my throat. Idk if I can take this man. Been in tears all day.