My father also died of prostate cancer, At 88 his father lived in 98. I remember the day he told me Lupron stopped working. I had never heard of it and was unfamiliar with what was going on, But he told me his cancer was getting worse as a result. My father had his teeth ground down and crowned without Novocain, when I was a teenager. He’d come home to dinner after seeing the dentist and eat normally. The last few weeks before he died, he was on so much morphine that he couldn’t carry on a conversation. Didn’t realize that my father dying of prostate cancer would not be a good omen for me.

In my case, it turns out not only did I get prostate cancer genes from my father I got BRCA2 From my mother. As a result, I got prostate cancer at 62 whereas my older brother got prostate cancer at 75 because he doesn’t have BRCA2.

You’re having some issues with the VA and I may have some information that will help you get better treatment. Ancan.org Holds a veterans health online meeting every first and third Tuesday of the month. They have a whole bunch of military people from generals and Colonel’s to all ranks, helping people get the best care they can possibly get. They know how to go around the military to get outside doctors and have it paid for It might really make a difference for you to attend a meeting.

You’re talking about meeting people that have similarities to what you find in this group. I have been involved in the advanced prostate cancer weekly meetings at Ancan.org For about four years. There’s a group of people that meets there every week and most of the people have been there for a long time and are there to help and to get help. If you come to a meeting for the first time, they will give you close to a half an hour to discuss what’s going on with your case and what can be done about it. They’ve been helping people for 15 years and really know their stuff. It’s a large group, Between 35 and 50 people show up to every meeting.

There’s another group I meet with that’s similar in that people know each other, some for a long time and they’re really friendly in the group. They meet twice a month. I’ve been going to these meetings for about a year. It is call the Cancer support community https://www.cancersupportcommunity.org/. This is another place you might like to come to the meetings and learn a lot. You do need to get authorized ahead of time so you just have to call and they want to make sure you have prostate cancer.