Hi again georgette ..... I had to start a new line because for some reason my computer wouldn't let me reply, so I decided to start again. You hit the nail on the head. I do have a right, at my age, to be happy for however many years I have left, and as I age should I need help, well, my kids can make the drive up to Frederick. Yes, I know my girls love me, but I think the big push behind this is for their convenience, for one of them especially. I kept hearing "how much cheaper it is down here than in Frederick." Well, I've written down all the expenses and the difference is only $213, and that doesn't count the $150 per month I pay my Property Manager. Savings? I think not. Also, I have long-term care insurance, so that would take a good bit of the burden off of them. You're right .... I know what they will say, and my son in Alexandria, VA should I decide to move back. But when I think of it .... OMG, it makes me smile and feel happy. They won't be up very often .... maybe about 2-3 times a year at the most, but that would be their decision, not mine. My condo is 1200 sq. ft. with 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. Hearing what you and others have to say, and really taking it in, I know you're right. Gone are the days, I guess, when the adult kids went to their parent's to help if something was needed. Now it seems to be for their convenience, no matter how difficult it makes life for the older parent. So, if I don't get one of those apartments, that'll be it. I will take that as God's sign to me to pack up my buggy and head "home."
Thank you so very much ..... bless you my friend,
abby