Connect
← Return to Husband with untreated depression/anxiety
Discussion
Husband with untreated depression/anxiety
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Aug 2 5:18am | Replies (45)Comment receiving replies
Thank you so much. We are living very similar lives. My husband is physically very healthy but mentally very very difficult to get along with. People who tell you to just talk to him or to give him an ultimatum to get help just do not understand that this does not work with some people. If they refuse to talk, if it just makes them angry if you press them or they shut down and sulk for days it is just not possible. It can feel very hopeless. Even therapy doesn’t solve anything if it’s just you. I am not a religious person but I hope that helps you. I found your reply to be very helpful and I. Truly appreciate it. I wish you peace.
Replies to "Thank you so much. We are living very similar lives. My husband is physically very healthy..."
Dear Rose
Thank you for replying to me about the problem you are having trying to take to your Hubby. Why I understand is your Hubby has gone into shock & it is his way of trying to handle the problem he has. How do I know this because when I was told I had Pancreatic & Liver Cancer I did much the same & when my wife would try to talk to me I would also shut down because I don't think she really understood what was going on inside my head, The Best think I think you can do is just let him be, do not try and push him just try and be a little bit more understanding he just want to be left in peace. Mean time you yourself must try and find away to fill in your days by going out to friends placers and talking to them about your problems, But just leave Hubby alone Ok
Take Care Rose
Connect
Hi Roseann. My thoughts go out to you and tstrepy for what you are both going through.
At some point, and this is very hard to do with a spouse, you have to accept that the other person is not going to respond regardless of their situation. They have chosen to live unhappily. you don't.
It's not unlike having an alcoholic/addict in the house. Until they realize that they need to change, and more importantly, they can't do it alone and need help - you will drive yourself crazy. People have to find their own way to the pain point that forces them to ask for help. And if they don't, well there is no need for the other person to suffer along.
Easier said than done. We are each entitled to our own lives, and that's about all we can manage. We can't manage another person's life, no matter the reason.
Again, my good thoughts go out to both of you. I hope you find some happiness in your own lives. You certainly deserve that much.
Joe