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Miss my life pre-cancer

Breast Cancer | Last Active: Jul 25, 2025 | Replies (20)

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Yes also have felt disconnected - Rylee you nailed it. Would add disconnection is a protection for you and your family. My first diagnosis was in my mid 40's and now have metastasis reoccurrence at 72. When first diagnosed I felt I had to disconnect - did not want this disease to define me - had growing children and did not want them to have their youth impacted by cancer - so pushed the cancer aside however not sure that was the best choice, I thought it was protection for me and my family. The reoccurrence was like a sledgehammer reminder - wish I could disconnect this time around but treatment has been tougher and have to admit feeling very low. Friends/family are fine with disconnecting with the cancer - they are used to me just handling it. It is hard to look at mortality, cancer is a wake up call - disconnection is not the answer - life is a gift we are meant to appreciate no matter how much time we have left. Get help with the disconnection - do not miss out on an inner growth opportunity, will make living richer. My reoccurrence has forced me out of my disconnect and it is much harder. Wish I had done it differently now.

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Thank you everyone! I'm grateful for all your stories of feeling disconnected, scared and finding ways to overcome this state of mind. You are such a wonderful caring community and I enjoy being part of it. I'll be in recovery for the next month so this is a very good time for me to accept this as an opportunity for quiet reflection and growth.

“I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”
Carl Jung