I am so glad this topic was started. I live in a very active retirement community. I lost the last 20 months to breast cancer journey. I am grateful for the support I had from friends and neighbors. However, things have changed. There were times I couldn't join in for activities or meals together. No real outings, low white count. The others went on with their lives and established new fun things and I am not included. I do feel left out. I am working on a new normal. That is a bit difficult at age nearly 85. I am told I am a young 85. This has aged me though. I have ongoing issues with medication side effects that make me very cautious about traveling. So, I am doing what I feel I can safely do. I am attending activities here again. I am helping start a theater group. I did get out to see a community theater show with new friends. I am grateful I can do that. I will slowly build upon that beginning. Being grateful and focusing on the positive helps me and I have to remind myself of that at times. I guess I could describe the after breast cancer treatment, etc. as being empty. Ones life revolves around appointments and medications and side effects. Now it is time to refill that empty spot. That does take some effort on our part. Start with little things like inviting someone to lunch. Go to a movie with someone. Go for a walk with a neighbor. Start small and build as your stamina for being active improves. It is comforting to know that others feel the same way, isn't it? I appreciate every one of you who contribute to this site.