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Yes, the waiting must be frustrating. They took me fast because my cancer had already spread into my spine and was immediately life threatening (I'd lost use of my legs before they operated, though I have most of that back now). If they're making your spouse wait, the odds are (I hope) that it's a very early stage diagnosis, and there's no immediate threat. Still, I hope you know more soon.