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There's no way to make any of this easy. Everything you're feeling is what all of us here struggle with as well. I spent at least three years feeling angry, sad, helpless, hopeless, and generally as if my life was over. Goodbye good times, hello ... what? Gradually the anger has abated. I still feel frustrations and annoyances, but the deep anger is gone. Then I struggled with depression and feeling overwhelmed with no idea about what to do. As my husband declines, I find myself taking over more and more of the things it takes to run a household and being more assertive about getting my own needs met. I've started walking lots more, lost 45 lbs., have gotten more-or-less on top of practical things, like finances, etc. My backyard is so neglected it looks like a wilderness, but you can't see it from the street and it's been so hot that I just let it go. I'll deal with that sometime. I guess. My point is, I feel more agency now, more in control of my own life. I'm 79 and determined to make my final years as rich and fulfilling as I can make them. I have an aortic aneurysm and that sort of gives me a certain perspective on what's important. Take care of my husband; take care of myself. I hope you can do the same. Courage and patience required.