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Has your doctor been straightforward about your survival?
Gynecologic Cancers | Last Active: Sep 7, 2025 | Replies (93)Comment receiving replies
I just had that discussion with my oncologist today, emboldened to ask by our conversations here. I said, I would like to know best case scenario, worst case scenario, middle case, how long might I live? The uncertainly is really upsetting. We've been together 20 years and would like to get married in September. Will I still be alive then?
She offered congratulations and then said, "Some people with Stage 4 cancer live many, many years. Worse case, a year." A year is longer than I thought I had. A year is a long time - all the seasons. I am going to work hard a beating those odds. I am meeting with an excellent dietician , very knowledgeable. If chemo doesn't work -I currently have "mixed results." - I may try the Push Pause cancer treatment as exspoused by Dr. Thomas Seyfried. I have also been reading "Radical Remission and watching the free videos on You Tube. That is very encouraging. It is about the factors that people have in common who have survived stage 4 cancer and were not helped by traditional western medicine. Diet is a big one. William Li on You Tube also has diet suggestions.
Sugar "ignites cancer." I've managed to change my diet a lot and eliminate most sugar. I don't miss it as much now. However, it is in everything, salad dressing, etc. so not eleminating all of it. Fruit sugar, fructose, I am allowing. Nectarines!!!
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Hello, @jchantler
I am not at your stage of cancer. I hope never to be and engage in strategies similar to yours (diet, movement, perspective shifts) to improve my chances of preventing a recurrence of the endometrial adenocarcinoma I was diagnosed with in January 2023.
Just want to tell you how deeply you touched my heart just now when I read of your courage in starting that conversation with your oncologist that can be so important to you and possibly so difficult and painful for both of you.
When I read your reaction to hearing her say, “worstcase scenario, a year,” was “a year is a longtime -all the seasons,” my heart exploded with admiration and joy. “All the seasons.” What an important anchor to each moment you live (and love!) through.
I hope this life of yours, and all you are doing to care for your mind and body, including reading and sharing here, extends for many, many more seasons.
Thank you for opening my heart and mind this morning, jchantler. I am more grateful than I can express.
Wishing you well,
Gynosaur
I've read the books you listed. I have come up with the theory that's it's all about how well our immune system is functioning. I've worked with dietians and a holistic doctor. We have explored how all of my body systems are functioning and what was cause on going low grade inflammation. I have some pretty different health issues to correct. But I did it. If we can get the right help for the right health professional we can improve our over all health. When are healthy our immune system will function properly.
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@jchantler Congratulations on starting this discussion with your oncologist. Congratulations on your marriage plans for September. It sounds like your oncologist provided you with the information you wanted. I'm tagging @denisestlouie because like you she advocated for herself with her doctors and she made lifestyle changes in exercise and diet.
You've written here the definition of Hope. Hope is optimism with a plan. The plan part means that you are not passively waiting for something to happen without effort but rather taking an active role by working with your doctors and in your own health and recovery.
A Fall wedding! What plans are you making?