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He wants a divorce; we are both turning 70
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Sep 7, 2025 | Replies (68)Comment receiving replies
@slarson14 Did you divide all real estate assets 50/50? Do you still own a house together in his home state? If he “gave” you the land, did he keep the other house? You deserve half of all assets.
What if you sell the real estate and rent income based elderly housing? Building a home is very expensive. Or, you could look at putting a mobile home or prefab tiny home on the land. Is it a lot or acreage? Could you build a duplex and rent one side to help make payments? I don’t know the zoning of your lot, but look at all the possibilities. Where are you living right now? You don’t need to be homeless. There has to be a way.
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Pretty much divided it 50/50. We own the home we both live in now. I took the land because I plan to stay here; he will be selling the house. I have designed a VERY small home to be built on the land.
Cannot sell the land because I would lose so much money in the sale; we purchased the home in the real estate market bubble of 2021. Part of the reason I bought the land was I was going to do Christian counseling and recovery for abused women. I had designed a larger house so I'd have more space for group counseling, etc; but that went out the window as I simply cannot afford the larger design now that he has decided he is leaving. 3-4 years have been put into this goal...but then he tells me he has "other goals" now and doesn't like my goal any longer.
Wish I could put a modular home on the land, but it has a private covenant that requires a masonry home. Thank heavens it doesn't have a minimum size requirement because the new design is only 875 sf. Have been searching and searching for a contractor to build for less than $300. a square foot...
The thought just occurred to me, perhaps I should go church to church in town, asking pastors if they have any trustworthy contractor types who want to build it for $200-250 a sf because that is my high end budget.
Good thing is, spouse can't sell this house before I get that house built. Unless he gets a lawyer and gets impatient waiting for me to get this house built.
Neither of us wants a lawyer. Lawyers charge $400.00 and hour. I simply do not have money to get a lawyer, neither does he want to get a lawyer.