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He wants a divorce; we are both turning 70
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Sep 7 5:50pm | Replies (68)Comment receiving replies
Hi Slarson,
I know exactly how you feel when they won't hire you. I went through the same thing when I was in my middle forties and back then in the early 1990's, being a woman was looked on as defective as far as hiring was concerned. I had good work experience and a Master's degree but that didn't phase them at all. I finally found a job working as a desk clerk in a Seattle hotel but that didn't really fit with the Master's degree but it did buy the groceries. Plus it turned out to be a really fun job. It was near the University of Washington so we had guests from all over the world who had business at the University. I enjoyed meeting people from England, Russia, Africa, China, Japan etc. I amazed myself at how good I could communicate with people who didn't speak much English and I don't speak another language.
Keep looking and you will find the right job for you; even at 70! I would think that they would want someone who liked working as you do. Say a prayer about it and God will direct you to the right job. I'll say a prayer for you also.
I wish you the best!
PML
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Thank you so much for the words of encouragement and understanding what it is like trying to get hired - somewhere.
Three years ago, I left my spouse because we were doing nothing but arguing over HIS choice not to wear his great hearing aides! For 7 years he just kept blaming me for not doing as he wanted and: "come stand directly in front of me, if you want to speak to me" ; "don't mumble" (I do not mumble); his not wearing them was making him a cranky old man and his frustration at having to constantly use his brain to decipher language made him a bear to me as well as when he was in public - he got mad at other people for not speaking loud and mumbling, too! It was horrible. And the volume of the television? Even at the volume he kept it at he would STILL ask me "What did they say?"....it was just unlivable. However: when he'd wear to do that if he'd have just agreed to put in his hearing aides and wear them. I EVEN went out and got hearing aides MYSELF to try to set an example that it was no big deal to wear hearing aides, no shame, no effort, etc.
SO: when I left him that time, I told him I would come back when he took responsibility for HIS hearing loss. I did get a job as a counter clerk at a donut shop for three months. (That is how long it took for my spouse to come to the reality it was his hearing that was creating communication issues.) I dearly loved the work and it was the first time I'd been hired in 9 years. It was only $11.30 an hour; she moved me up to shift manager and closer (on my own). The way I got it was just getting to know the owner and then she hired me! It was fabulous. I ended up leaving because I could not support myself, my car broke down and I didn't have $ to fix it on just my income, and I began getting bouts of high blood pressure and ended up in ERs (thank God I had insurance) and then spouse decided to promise to wear the hearing aides if I'd "come home".
I have tried finding a job over and over since I have been back home, but this is a smaller town. Tucson vs San Antonio - MANY more jobs in San Antonio. Tucson is a retirement town, and the job market is tight.
But your encouragement gives me hope! Thank you SO much.