He has his own income as he is a retired veteran and has his retirement pension and some disability. When we met he was living very frugal as his income did not include SS for nearly 7 years. It seems now that he has enough to live on "well" without my income, he sees no reason in staying together.

During the first years from my IRA and SS Disbility I provided ALL the "finer things", so he wasn't living paycheck to paycheck in a dilapidated old old house with leaky windows, etc: a newer house, a new car (or two), new RVs, travel money; basically anything other than food or shelter.

I also paid for life insurance on him, until he turns 70 this year (then it just gets too expensive for me to pay). When we bought the first house I had to beg him to get life insurance because if something were to happen to him, I would not be able to keep the newer houses we bought together.

We would have rather big arguments about why it was important that if I lost him, I would have to move out of our home. He didn't offer to pay for the life insurance...that gave me a sense of unease....that he was NOT thinking of MY future, only his? Was I seeing this correctly do you think?

I guess I have been a "patsy"?
The problem is, is that he has assured me we would be together forever, so I have been spending as if that were true, loving him all the while.

This is hard to deal with in my head.

What bothers me a lot is now that we have decided to divorce, he doesn't seem empathetic to how I will now be living: like he was living when I met HIM ten years ago. I will be living paycheck to paycheck now.

I just want to die. No one can be trusted in life.