@slarson have you thought about approaching a Community Centre to offer classes in those subjects that interest you? If you don’t want to teach, perhaps you could join a group interested in your areas of interest …?

And do get a lawyer, even if he “does not want” a lawyer. I (and I am sure the others here) can’t emphasize that enough. He sounds very manipulative and likely already has a lawyer behind your back while at the same time making you believe that neither of you need a lawyer. As several have suggested, get a lawyer! After all he has put you through, I would not trust him, or anything he says!

I don’t have any assets but if my husband were not happy living with me - or I with him - I’d be looking for a lawyer regardless of whether he wanted one or not!

My husband and I (73 and 78) are very much together, but he does his own laundry and I do mine, just as our kids did their own laundry from the time they were ten years old! I do the sheets, towels, etc. (I make him help me with the bed making though!) but he not only has to take care of his own laundry, but fold it and put it away too - just as our kids did. We both share all other chores around the house. I make him snacks when I make my snacks, but so does he for me! He cooks some meals and does dishes sometimes when I am tired or feel unwell. If he just sat there on the couch expecting only me to bring him his snacks and drinks I certainly wouldn’t!