Hi Slarson,
I'm so sorry to hear this. That's very sad. Have you tried to reconcile things with him or won't he listen? The counseling that was mentioned by Jody may be a good idea. Also have you told your husband how much you love him? Sometimes we need to say that more often than we do.

I understand how you feel you might end up homeless. My husband died exactly a year ago and with rising prices I, too have worried about that now I'm alone. I save every cent I can. You might want to hang onto your IRA.

One thing that helped me when my husband died and before, was prayer. I just told God all my concerns and asked for his help and I got it. Just talk to God like he's your best friend and he is!
God created us and he wants us to be happy. He will help you get through this time. I will say a prayer for you also.
I wish you the best.
PML