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A parent with an adult daughter in crisis with depression
Mental Health | Last Active: Jul 21 3:36pm | Replies (18)Comment receiving replies
If she is not a danger to herself or others, I would recommend that you get in to see a therapist to learn how to take care of yourself in this situation. It is hard to live with someone with mental health issues. It will take a toll on everyone around her. Getting advice from a therapist on the best way to be supportive of her kids, you, her husband and yourself is all you can do. If she get volatile from your suggestions out of care and concern, there is not much you can do about that except take care of yourself. Maybe set some boundaries. Would she agree to see a psychologist or therapist? Have you heard of borderline personality disorder? If not, I would look into it. There is a lot of information out there and your mention of the controlling, obsessive, eating issues, depression, etc., sounds like some of the criteria, although I believe all mental health issues are on a spectrum. Dr. Marsha Lenihan is, herself, a person that has borderline personality disorder and created dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to treat people like herself. It comes from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is an evidence based treatment for many mental health related issues and honestly, probably everyone needs to know this modality. Anyway, I am posting a link here. You can look other places. YouTube has many videos on these issues you are experiencing with your daughter. Hang in there!!!
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20370237
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This is such helpful advise. On all counts. She came downstairs todau. thanked me for being so supportive during this difficult time. She is "almost bakc" to normal. I am just going to move past this fragility before entering into a fuller discussion. She is not volitile at all. Rather she is of a mode of wanting to handle these ephisodes by herself. Hopefully I can move her past this, now that I have witnessed it firsthand at our summer home. She has seen a therapist intermittently, but I am confident she doesn't fully self-reveal. I am less in a panic mode now, but your advice regarding Cognitive therapy ( actually knew Tim Beck) and seeing a therapist myself for guidance is particularly helpful. She won't do inpatient support, but I am looking into some services near her that offer group/personal therapy. I think she feels very alone and scared. Thank you!!!!!