@janegigi, I want to extend my Welcome to you. I am happy that you have found this topic on Mayo Clinic Connect. I do wish that there was something that could be done to turn back the clock so that you would not have had this experience. I don't understand how you were placed in such a situation. I have had several hospital experiences, and even in the best of circumstances, it can be a frightening and eerie place. I have also been in situations where there have been 'less than pleasant/qualified" caregivers and staff. I commend your daughter for calling this to the attention of a responsible staff member where it was addressed. I hope that you can find at least a small sense of gratitude that someone, in the future, will benefit from this. (Not much help, I know).
I have no experience with what you have gone thru, except one time when my son was not feeling confident about the night nurse, and so he decided to stay with me thru the night. I was also fortunate that my family was available afterwards to tell me what what they had observed during my times of confusion and this has helped me to sort out the blanks in my memory. I don't know what to say or to think about your situation, but I don't think that we can ever just forget things like that. I am glad to hear that you are making some improvement, and are pleased with your therapist and are seeing some results. It sounds like your husband is willing to stand up for you and be at your side. I hope that you will continue making progress, and begin to mingle with a new group of friends - who accept you for who you are.

You said that you had recently retired, so will you be able to revisit any of your original retirement plans? Do you think you can continue to look ahead to building some better memories and experiences for yourself and for your family?