Melissa I hated to leave the conversation the other day, but Oi needed to be somewhere away from my computer.
How are you and your mother doing?
I also want to ask how is your dad doing? He is the one that I can most relate to. I spent 5 days in ICU in Kentucky, and another 12 in critials conditiion at Mayo. For most of the first 10 days I have very little memory of what happened. Mostly random memories if events (sudden noises, being moved or lifted, needles and strange equipment, hushed voices/parts of conversations, faces that i still cannot identify, etc) After my hospital release while I was recovering, I asked my husband what had occurred during those 3 weeks. I remember how difficult it was for him to tell me about it. It was even more difficult because he and I had gone thru the same situation, but from different perspectives,. And it caused him much pain as I kept asking over and over again.
Have you considerd keeping a list of the events, the procedures, the people, the places tat your dad has had contact with during this time. If he ever asks, you will be able to provide him with it. A little peace of mind could be a huge gift for him.