Hello uni2025!
Difficult news, of course, and so young. The truth is the outlook may be more hopeful than you expected; at least in regards to time. I got my news in 2022 after I had just turned 65. I retired after 30 years from a great job and was subcontracting as an environmental consultant working my best job at a site where we had endangered species, rattlesnakes, mountain lions, badgers and very high slopes to drive my SUV through. I was at the peak of my career financially, as well, and enjoying my life. Like your wife, I acted quickly on the disease knowing how aggressive it was upon my father 25 years prior. I got surgery, 5FU chemo for 6 months, and after 4 months the off chemo it came back to my liver. Years ago that metastasis could have been a death sentence. I sold our home and distributed much of the proceeds to our children. There are many options now for liver mets, e.g., gem/abraxane chemo pills if you have the right mutations, targeted radiation and histotripsy. All of these are life extenders or lifelines as I like to call them. Some people can opt to have surgical resectioning on liver. You won't know the best option until you are getting taken care of at a place of
high volume in regards to pancreatic cancer, you do your research, and continue to stay active on this board which is comprised of fellow pancreatic cancer patients offering to talk about what they are doing and how they are faring with particular treatments and you will learn a lot. You must accept there is an end as well as the potential for a cure - not an easy task. Keep a journal on the process of this disease. Try, try to get some excerise like walking on a regular basis as it will help with digestion, your heart, and your emotional well being. Eat foods that are not processed. You and your wife are not helpless. You are in charge of this informidable disease, but you must fight like crazy. Faith helps me a bit. Reach out to friends for your support group. Many people are unexpectedly, unprepared, etc. before they pass, in general. We have been given a gift to possibly say goodbye over a long period of time. Create a bucket list of things you would want to do. Mine included going to Sammy Hagar's beachside restaurant, go to an 80's concert, going to Denny's etc. do whatever you and your wife would like. Try to eat whatever you can and she likes even if it's just frozen yogurt, homemade cookies, etc., and best wishes in this journey.