@lovethealoha and @randymurch, a friendly reminder of the Community Guidelines https://connect.mayoclinic.org/blog/about-connect/tab/community-guidelines/

Guideline number 2 reminds us to post with respect.

2. Remain respectful at all times.
- Exercise tolerance and respect toward other participants whose views may differ from your own.
- Disagreements are fine, but mutual respect is a must.
- Personal attacks against members or health care providers are not acceptable. Such posts will be removed.

People come to Mayo Clinic Connect seeking and offering support. Everyone's experience is different. I feel that you have up until this point been respectful of each other's differing experiences with care after HoLEP. Let's please continue to support fellow members with respect.