Try to share my experiences and hope it can help one way or another;
Talk nicely to your spouse and try to write the check in all details to pay the bills but ask him to co-sign at the end. This will have you asking your Banker to issue you NEW CHECKBOOK effective only if both of you signed that CHECK.
Another way:: If you have a trusted children to handle all your payments - - - so that you and your husband will turn over financial payments via this system. - - - have 3 of you go see your Banker to work out the details.
I am a caregiver myself; i often lost my cool and patience too. But I learn how to extend my "SORRY" to others!! That Help me at least!!! So, gook luck to all of you!.