Hi MJ, Yes, tying scarves was a pain, especially those silky poly ones. I live in the south, so they are hot also lol. I started searching for the light weight cotton, but only bandanas came up. ugh lol. so I have bought the cotton/blend shawl and just cut them right up the middle, two for one! And easier to tie, since the gauzy fabric is very forgiving. also I do not undo the knot, just leave it and it's ready tied for next time. I will try to link the ones I like the best.
It's not vane or silly to not want the different attention a head covering brings. it took me awhile to get used to it. I'm super neutropenic and have been hospitalized 3 times so far, so I'm scared to go anywhere, I've become a hermit lol ordering everything for delivery. the few times I do venture to the stores etc, I've noticed that people just give me space. I have my hat or scarf plus a face mask, so its well know to anyone I have health problems. I've also had a couple strangers ask for my name so they can pray for me, I accept their grace and take is in stride.
I do know that for now, during the active chemo, it's not advised to use any hair growth treatment. it will just be a waste, since it's all being blocked by the chemo. but do use some type of oil or moisturizer on your head. I was having dry itchy head right around chemo 2, while the hair was falling. And my head was sore also, like I slept in a tight ponytail. I personally like the smell of coconut oil and use a tiny bit on my fingertips to massage it in.
I just had my chemo 5 yesterday, one more to go, then 6 more rounds of just a targeted drug. My cancer is HER2 triple positive, so hormone fed. I got some happy news yesterday about this, the targeted drug is not supposed to not cause additional hair loss!! YAY, I just might have some hair on my head before xmas, fingers crossed.

my account here is new and I'm not allowed to post links or pic yet. search for "Zhanmai Set of 8 Cotton Hijab Scarf for Women Muslim Scarf Shawl Crinkle Hijab for Women". These are the scarves I like the best, super soft. Just cut in half and tie like a bandanna. Then twist and knot the ends, tucking the end bits back into the knot. this makes a bottom knot at the nape of your neck, like a low bun.

Best of luck with your journey!!

Lynn