Hi,
My partner has MCI, a stroke, and leukemia. He is furious and often furious with me (because he won't talk to anyone else). He won't let me help with our finances and is racking up late payment debt because he can't remember how to use the bank software. Then he blames me. I don't know where to go for help. He hates everyone. He seems to think I am trying to take all his money--this happens a lot at night and I go to bed and try to sleep and am rather frantic after one of his fits, then he seems to forget it and I am left with fear.
I don't know what to do when he goes on one of his rants. If I ignore him that's wrong. If I try to talk to him, that's wrong. What is the best and kindest thing to do without lying to him?