I have had this now for almost 5 years. The itching and soreness is always there, but sometimes better. My doctor gave me Clobatasol and that helps. My last treatment was Imiquimod, which was not pleasant but it seems to have helped. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but nothing will totally take this away. You didn't mention your age. But, I hope for your sake that no one is pushing you for sex. It would definitely make it worse. Good luck on your journey. Let me know if I can help.