My hair loss has been very traumatic. I have always had butt length, straight and silky hair. Since I was a little girl. My hair was part of my identity.
At my first chemo, the nurse told me it would start falling out on day 16. To help with the shock, I should cut my hair in half every few days. That week I cut half off to my bra line. A few days later I cut just below my shoulders. Then exactly on day 16, it started falling in handfuls. I had the last cut into a pixie/boyish style. After chemo 2, the fall slowed down, lol not much was left.
Now have wisps of hair, 3 inches long on top with the short sides. I look bald from the front. To shave or not to shave, when is the right time? I think this is different for each of us. I just can’t bring myself to shave this last bit off. I will before it grows back, but for right now, I just like the feel of having some hair there. Having something to touch with my fingers.
I have 2 more rounds of chemo, 6 total, then more after surgery. I will be on AI for years after radiation is done. Hopefully my hair will grow back to what is was, one day.

For now, I wash my scalp with baby shampoo and then put organic coconut oil to keep from getting dry and itchy.
I have not been interested in wigs. Instead, I bought gauze shawls (from Amazon) of all colors and cut them in half to make soft head scarves that I knot at the back of my head.
I wear thin knit slouchy beanie caps at home and at night, my head is always cold.
I also have been crocheting my own hats, using cotton or bamboo yarn. Gives me something to do during the hours long chemo infusions. I wear these when I don’t want to fuss with a scarf, and I have gotten a compliment or two.

I wish you all the best as you deal with your hair loss.