@sibo
I had the same relationship with a narcissist who was also paranoid. It is very hard to deal and for me especially hard when love and caring was involved.

Do you have access to WEBMD? They just did an article on what is a Narcissist. Sypmptoms to see and also what you can do. The article and information is really good and informative abound the mental outlook of somewone that is a narcissist and why they act the way they do. If you cannot access WEBMD try googling and see information on it. Knowing why goes a long way to understanding.

I would suggest if possible to consider seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist to help with this. Us on MCC are not medical or mental health professionals nor have your medication and mental health issues and can only give you our experiences with a discussion.