My parents put me in rehab (the first time) at 14. After attempts at sobriety over 3 decades, I am sober (as you know as I have said it probably too many times). My mother told me, "As long as you were alive, I had hope." That was powerful to me. My brother, completely stopped talking to me and told my mother to tell me he would not talk to me until I quit using. After I quit 12/16/17, I was working through the steps of AA. I got to steps 6 & 7 and started making amends. My brother told me that he had always waited on the phone call from my parents or my partner (that died from this dis-ease) that I was dead. That was also powerful and really hit me in the soul regarding how my addiction had affected those that cared for me the most. Yes, you must take care of yourself. It is a natural law that if you change, everyone around you changes. That is not to put the responsibility on you regarding anyone else's issue...it is just the way the Universe seems to work.