This is very informative and helpful. DW is ten years into Alzheimer's and I do just about everything now. Had trouble with her hygiene until I started handling it the way you described. I quit putting things on the calendar and just tell her when it's time to go, to Dr, dentist, beauty shop, eye doc, etc. Good point about executive function, I thought she was just getting lazy because everything is being done for her. Short term memory is non existent, so the repetition is irritating, but it not helpful to mention it. There is an urgency when she thinks of some question to ask, probably because she knows she will forget unless she asks immediately. She is cheerful a lot of the time, and that's a blessing. I have to keep reminding myself that she isn't the person I've known all these decades, and never will be again. That's just a fact.