Sorry to hear of your pain and consequences, but...you are only 72-hours from surgery. You have a long way to go. I do know from several friends and from comments here - plus physician input - that the younger you are, the less difficult the post-surgical process is. The men I know who had the surgery in their 50's, did bounce back pretty fast, and were back to work with a week.
I am 70 years old. I stayed two nights in the hospital. The first 10 days post-op were pretty difficult. It was hard to get myself up from a prone position in bed or the couch, and down/up off the toilet. The symptoms do change though...some completely disappear, but are replaced by others. Right now at 8 weeks post-op, my biggest problem is a deep, aching, painful perineum. It feels like a rode a bike for over 100 miles on a racing bike saddle seat. I am living on Tylenol and Motrin (alternate them). The incontinence is exasperating. I am doing Kegel's, but I don't know if I am doing enough, too many, or just right. Either way, they are not working thus far 6-7 weeks after the catheter was removed. But...my doctor and the literature say, that you can expect to be incontinent for 2-3 months "minimum." I started inserting pads inside my diapers because I was going through 6-8 diapers per day. My only respite is that I can sleep at night without peeing. It is all about "gravity." As soon as I stand up from a chair, the couch, or getting out of my car, it is an absolute flood. I use Kegel's to get to the bathroom fast, but when I am out on errands, etc., it just flows uncontrollably. So...long story short: be patient if you can. You have a longer more frustrating road ahead of you than any of us were told would happen, or would want to consider. I am just hoping that one day I'll realize that I just spent 1-2 hours out on errands, and I still have a dry diaper and pad. Continence is everything...something we all take for granted, until we lose it. Good Luck.