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Does anyone else experience the inability to cry?
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@hakablue
I have depression, anxiety, PTSD plus many health issues. I dealt with abuse/neglect as a child/teen plus parent abandonment. Trust issues and fear have been with me all my life.
I am probably one of the most empathetic and altruistic people you will meet. I love people and animals and feel pain when they suffer.
There are times I seem to not be able to cry when I am sad or hurt. I think I shut down my emotions for myself and masked painful feelings while growing up to survive and it is hard for me to connect to my own feeling for myself. I can easily cry for the pain of others but not for myself.
If you have numbed yourself to survive past pain, you need to tap into your past to feel what you did not feel when you needed to. I need to allow myself to feel my emotions freely and grieve my past to move forward.
I am in my mid 50s and continuously learning about myself each day.
1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-doctor-is-out-and-about/202209/6-reasons-why-some-people-cant-cry
2. https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/why-cant-i-cry
3. https://www.verywellmind.com/reasons-why-you-aren-t-crying-5324069
4. https://psychcentral.com/health/why-cant-i-cry
5. https://www.psychvarsity.com/why-can-t-i-cry-psychology-behind-emotional-numbness-and-suppressed-feelings
6. https://www.wellandgood.com/health/why-you-struggle-cry
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@dlydailyhope
>>If you have numbed yourself to survive past pain, you need to tap into your past to feel what you did not feel when you needed to. I need to allow myself to feel my emotions freely and grieve my past to move forward.
I had to make an account to reply and thank you for these words - what a great quote that really hits home
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Your history mirrors mine, my mother was there but emotionally. I found out when I was 40 years old she knew all along what happened to me and chose not to seek help for me. I think the difference is that I feel compassion and empathy for people, but honestly deep down I hate people. I have no trust of others and never have had a close friend. There’s a brick wall around me that no one has ever penetrated accept for my amazing sister. She lives out of state but we speak regularly. When I think about past trauma I only think about what was my fault. I wish I could look back with calm thought and send them down the river. I’ve tried. I’m proud and stubborn and will not stop trying. Thank you for your kind words