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Anyone dealing with a spouse or partner who is an alcoholic?
Addiction & Recovery | Last Active: 6 days ago | Replies (29)Comment receiving replies
Hi @tinameyer121212. Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect.
You’ve brought up an important point—addiction is incredibly complex. It’s like a bowl of spaghetti: everything’s tangled, twisted together, and it’s hard to tell where it starts or ends. Addiction impacts everything and everyone it touches. The only real way out is for each person to work on their own recovery—whether that’s the person struggling with addiction, or the family members, spouses, kids, or partners affected by it.
@diverdown1 and @linnie52 have provided you with some great resources to help in the immediate future.
A couple additional resources are:
-United Way - dial 211 from any phone
Free, confidential service that connects people to local services, including emergency housing, shelters, and legal help.
Website: 211.org
-National Coalition for the Homeless- 202.462.4822
Offers resources for individuals facing homelessness or unsafe housing, including shelters and legal referrals.
Website: Nationalhomeless.org
Take it one step at a time
@tinameyer121212- If you could wave a magic wand and wake up tomorrow with everything exactly the way you want it, what would that look like?
@mic129- how have things been going for you over the past few months? Have you had a chance to attend any AL-ANON meetings lately?
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@kelseyt
Honestly im not sure id really change anything other than trying to handle my problems differently and my stubbornness and not asking for help otherwise everything i went through or still going through makes and made the person I am today, though I dont have everything in life I wanted nor needed im not the greatest mom and I have flaws im still a good person still try to help others still care and still have love and compassion would give my last t shirts to someone in need that being said thats all id change no one is perfect and no one will be perfect no matter what they say I dont strive for perfect I strive for being better than the day before someone once said to me why cant you be normal and it bothered me I mentioned it to a friend they said "tina whats normal, to me normal is just a setting on a washing machine" I think about that everytime I hear the words "perfect" or "normal"
@mic129
No I haven't been to any meetings at all i just stopped drinking its been about 2 months I believe and as far as life im still out here trying trying to make the next day better than the last!!