As a recovering addict/alcoholic, I can just speak for myself. People did ask and tried over decades to help me. I saw therapists, shrinks and went to treatment several times. I had to make the decision to stop and only then could I even try to figure out what parts of my life I needed to look at. I have been sober for awhile and AA saved me, but I also attend therapy for the issues, you raise. The things that happened to me over the years. There is a physical part to addiction as well as a psychological/emotional part. I am proud of you for two days of being sober. I suggest going to some kind of meeting (AA, NA, etc.) The meetings help answer the questions you pose here. Some people are genetically predisposed to addiction, some may not be, regardless, in my experience, my drinking and using drugs to numb became a necessity to live which in actuality was slowly killing me. I hope you remain sober JUST TODAY. It is so much better and easier to deal with one day, hour, minute of not picking up a drink or drug, if that is what it takes. Hang in there.

@tinameyer121212 different from my condition, I knew my partner as an alcoholic, which from the beginning was not so obvious or I was the one who realized it late, you could also say that when we first met, I understood him and tried to always support him to be better every day. I am not the reason for his addiction, he admitted his addiction for more than 20 years, and his addiction seemed to just flow, even when we really lived a happy life without problems, we were always open, told everything together, supported each other, but alcohol addiction has its own way to poison his brain and lead him back into it. and what I feel right now is really losing who I am, the will to live, and depression that shackles me. don't know how to support him and be by his side, but on the other hand I am slowly breaking down, don't know what to do.