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I agree that it is irrelevant to compare our cancers as they are all different. And looking up life expectancy is just as meaningless because of our unique presentations. (But I imagine that most of us have done this!)
Best wishes as you complete your treatment.

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I guess if you're one of the lucky ones to see progress you can't help but feel fortunate. I felt that way too when I had legionella in 1989 and was in ICU for 10 days. I felt that way in 2011 when I had a sub-arachnoid hemorrhage, brain bleed, and was in neurological ICU at Shands in Gainesville FL for 8 days. I never felt like I was going to die with the first 2 and for some reason I had that feeling with this cancer diagnosis. Call me nieve or too confident or something else but I do believe that state of mind plays a big role in any medical diagnosis. Those numbers coming down are a positive for me and it keeps me hopeful. You will find your hopeful. Doctors don't know all the answers to a medical issue. If they did, they could cure everyone of everything. It doesn't hurt to do research either. Should you put 100% faith in everything you read? Of course not. Out of a 2 page article there may be only 3 or 4 things that pertains to me. I take THOSE 3 or 4 things and store them and when I find other symptoms in other places I begin to put a puzzle together for me. I don't try to make myself fit a diagnosis. I pick out only the things I'm dealing with then things begin to look a little more optimistic. If I had believed what it said about my cancer having only a 15-30% 5 year survival rate, I'd STILL be depressed. But I found people with a more advanced stage than I am, 3C, and they are even going through different treatments than I'm going through but yet there's one been in remission for 25 years. Another for over 10. Hearing their success stories gives me hope. I don't care if my doctor were to tell me otherwise, I believe in and trust other people's testimonials. I would never settle for there is no treatment out there. No way. The numbers give me hope. Other people's testimonials give me hope. The fact that I haven't been deathly sick, not ONE time in 4 chemo treatments while other people with the same diagnosis as me have puked for days after EVERY treatment, gives me a sense that I'm very fortunate. I wish the best for you. I would be researching everything I could possibly find on my illness. What is it going to hurt? It might be what you need to be optimistic and not settle for a doctors prognosis of it's so bad there is no hope. Not in this day and age with all the medical advances there are out there. Please try. It has to be important to at least one other person, right? ❤️