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My Body and Mind Declared Fragile. What now?

Chronic Pain | Last Active: Jun 12 10:05am | Replies (30)

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@SusanEllen66

@suesea thank you for your suggestions!

I am mourning, already, the loss of my “things”. I have furnishings that I really love, so the thought of having to sell my stuff is overwhelming. I really do not have anyone who can take most things.
How did you handle your move? Did you have to give away or sell your things?

I have to stop now. It’s past midnight and I have to get ready for sleep. I’ve have been listening to “green” noise while I sleep. It seems to help my brain rest well.

Talk with you tomorrow . 🌷🌵😴

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Hello and good morning. I hope you slept well. When I moved, I took only what I needed. I left the rest with family. I like the simplicity of what I have and keeping my apartment simple helps me remember what I have and stay organized. Clutter causes me stress, so it helps with my dementia to stay clean and organized. There are people here though who have brought big hutches and fancy furniture and knickknacks from their homes. That adds to their apartments feeling more like a home. I'm in a power wheelchair, and so the less I have the easier it is for me to navigate. It is hard letting go, but just think about what you can't do without and try to take what will make you happiest. The apartments do tend to be small. You may want to get the layout and just plan that way.
I don't like saying this, but they do have problems with theft. So, plan ahead and be prepared for that. Here, they suggest rental insurance in case your stuff goes missing. It feels like everyone has a key to your apartment - even cafeteria staff. Some of the staff, unfortunately, may not be as honest as others. They also recommend not keeping a lot of cash in your apartment for the same reason. I take my money with me everywhere I go.

Initially, the shock of so many people coming in to check on your welfare, help you with cleaning, take out the trash, etc... is overwhelming. At least it was for me. One of the aides recommended I put a note on my door requesting people knock and wait for me to answer before entering (unless there's an emergency, of course). I also asked them not to disturb me between 7pm and 9am. It seems to be working. Initially, people were coming in at all hours and waking me at very early hours. I don't sleep that well anymore, so if I finally fall asleep at 3am and someone bursts in yelling, "Good morning, Susan!" It kind of got on my nerves - a lot. It's settled down a bit. You should be aware of your rights in an assisted living facility in whatever state you are in. Get the ombudsman's number who can tell you your rights and know the laws in your state. An ombudsman will also investigate abuse and neglect. Just try to be aware that you still have rights in these facilities because sometimes it feels like the staff forget that.
Well, have a wonderful Sunday. ☺️