Hopenjoy,
My port creeps me out. It looks so alien. After placement it was bruised for a few months, healed very slowly. It is sensitive to some clothing, has pains that come and go, itches at times, and lets me know when an overhead lifting activity is not good---think the vein gets pressure from the port arms.
My chemo nurse told me I could put a gauze pad over it to keep my clothing off of it, they are sold with some type of gel adhesive so will peel off easily. I am sensitive to many adhesives so won't try it.
Yes, my port hurts each time it is used too, but is better than the alternative of using arm veins. There was a gal in the infusion room yesterday getting Carboplatin through a vein. Her veins are getting damaged from the Chemo, It took two Nurses to locate a vein that was healthy enough to feed a line into. So I am happy to have a port and avoid those consequences.
Have you tried cortisone ointment on your port? Just dab it on. I try to moisture the skin over it daily since chemo dries out your skin I feel it needs help. Hang in there, best of luck!