I value honesty so I don't like lying to my husband, even about little things, like the caregiver support group I attend once a month. I tell him it's a group of women who discuss aging. It includes men and is for caregivers of someone with dementia. He doesn't admit he has Alzheimer's and I don't want to make him anxious or sad. I guess the kindest thing is to tell "white lies" if that will keep him on an even keel. I'm taking over more of the routine tasks around the house without saying anything and he seems relieved that I do. He has certain things he prides himself on doing and I'll let him keep doing them as long as he can: unload the dishwasher, make the bed, take out the garbage, things like that. This business doesn't get easier but I'm getting better at handling it.