hmmm, again, you are not wrong, but...

As a society and as individuals, couples, families, we do need to discuss end of life, quality vs quantity.

That being said, I was diagnosed at age 57, two daughters, both in high school...

I felt I had a lot of living left, graduations, birthdays, vacations, anniversaries, maybe even weddings and grandchildren (not yet, though one may be close), doing things with friends...

All those have been experienced, well, no weddings or grandkids. My wife and I have vacationed two or three times each year, skiing and hiking in Colorado, the Big 5 in Utah, Ring Road in Iceland, New England, Oregon Coast, I have attended both daughters' graduations from high school and colleges, played pickleball with friends, gone skiing with them too. I've watched my younger daughter becomes sports director at two separate television stations and cover two super bowls, a NCAA championship and MLB post season playoffs. I've seen Billy Joel, Bruce Springsteen, Willie Nelson, Chicago and others in concert, attended baseball and college basketball games for my favorite teams, rode with my daughter and sister in the Garmin Unbound in the Flint Hills near Emporia, KS, and did the Battan Death March with my sister in White Sands, NM. As I type, I'm at Lake Tahoe for a week with my wife, two daughters and one boyfriend.

I could go on, you get the idea, a lot of living.

It's been 11+ years since that day when my urologist called me with the diagnosis. I had my pity party, then I picked myself up off the floor, literally, and set about figuring out how to either cure this or live the longest possible life with it balancing quality and quantity.

I have succeeded, in part thanx to medical researchers, a quality medical team, accepting responsibility for advocating for myself and shared decision making between my medical team and I, firing some very distinguished medical experts when they were not active listeners and offered baseline standard of care.

Have I enjoyed time on treatment and the side effects, heck no!

Do I look forward to the future, heck yeah, goal is 83, I'm 69+ now.

Will I have to make decisions about quality vs quantity of life later, maybe. I'll deal with it then. I have prepared in a way, have an estate plan, put in place medical power of attorney, discussed with my wife and children my desires not to live a long life in a hospital bed...

Kevin