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How to handle when spouse has cancer, is in pain and isn’t active?
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I know I should but I just don’t have the time everything is on my shoulders. Our family and friends have decided to ghost us. Even our pastor and his wife. My spouse he tries but then what happens he ends up in bed. We have one relative that calls but only to tell him about her problems and how can he help her? I told my spouse she has plenty of money so why doesn’t she just call an attorney or someone else to help her? She probably would stop calling if we asked for any help. Someone’s at your door.Thank you God bless everyone.
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That is awful, especially that your church community abandoned you. Still, even little breaks can make a difference. When I was in hospital for 3 1/2 months back in 2021-22, and my spouse was working a full-time job and then going back and forth to the hospital almost all her waking hours, I asked her to take every Saturday morning entirely for herself. I wouldn't call her (unless it was an emergency), text her, or expect a visit. That way, when she got up on Saturday morning, she knew that she could have that time not to think about cancer, but just to do normal things like lying on the couch with the cat doing the NYT crossword puzzle. If you can carve out *something* for yourself, it will help (but I don't want to diminish how difficult that is).