I am in a similar situation with my 80-year-old husband and have been told by our doctor that it's only going to get worse; that his heart would outlast his brain. I was prepared to do the caregiver thing but last September I had an unusually odd major stroke (basilar artery occlusion) that I survived mostly intact except I do find myself quite tired all the time and with an unstable gait. I can still cook, do dishes and some light housekeeping but now he has decided that he is MY Caregiver; afraid I might die anytime. (My doctor thinks I have several good years ahead of me.) I don't quite know how to handle this situation now. He spends money like a drunken sailor and that worries me as well. What are my options when he gets so bad I can't deal with him anymore?