It's silly but somehow finding this out today made me feel better for a bit. He drank himself into this condition, so that has been difficult for me to accept. I thought he was just being a jerk because he was such a jerk while he was drinking. He used to be so different, but that man is gone. I looked up a support group here in Santa Fe that I am going to investigate. I'm still planning a trip to FL to see my sister, but not sure what to do about him being home alone while I'm gone. Probably a good question for the group. Pamela, where are you? An English professor, wow. I always loved English and have thought about writing a bit. Maybe when I get old! Best wishes and feel free to give me a shout.