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17 yr old daughter diagnosed with Sever PTSD
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@donnab2673
Another thing to keep in mind is that children and teens with ADHD are about 3-5 years behind their peers in some areas of neurodevelopment and maturity. You can’t really compare your daughter to others her age on certain milestones. You need to accept her as she is and let her know you love her as she is. Don’t push her too much beyond what she can handle. When I started to let go of some things and expectations, I was able to be more present with my son in the moment and have more open/relaxed conversations. I have been trying to understand my son more and what his struggles are from his perspective, not mine. I am neurotypical and don’t know what it is like to live in the world as a neurodivergent person so I need to have patience when seeking to understand. I can’t make my child neurotypical and need to help him navigate the world, create strategies that work for him to advocate for himself, and use his strengths. They need to love themselves as they are and as God created them to be.
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Thank You for your comment. I do accept my daughter as she is trust me. I do not force her to go to school either. If she is having a bad morning than I usually tell her would like me to take you in to school in an hour or so. She sometime will say yes and that alleviates some of her anxiety a bit and then when at school she has to navigate between her PTSD and ADHD which not all high school teachers are understanding of regardless of her 504. When she does go she usually has a melt down some point in time in her school day and I get the call to come pick her up at school. Her high school has 500 students so it is hard to get specialized individual attention when she needs it. I told my daughter that all I want her to do is get the help she needs regardless what form it comes in and graduate high school or get a ged or highset and hold down a steady paying job. I do not want her diagnosis to hold her back and use it as an excuse for why she doesnt do things. She can with the proper coping methods the drs tell her to do but she wont do them. Just like she wont always take her meds. I am hoping she understands she can do hard things and push for herself to accomplish what she wants out of life whatever that maybe.
Thank you Again
Donna Burroughs