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should I break up with my boyfriend? I did it.
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: May 21 6:09pm | Replies (23)Comment receiving replies
Hi everyone,
My boyfriend and I broke up last week. I broke up with him because I didn't have the same feelings, and he also pushed me to do things that I didn't want to do. We dated for 6 months, so going through the breakup was hard. I had thoughts of Is this the right move? Today, not even a week later, I see him wrapped around another girl, that other girl being my close friend.. I probably shouldn't care, but I think to myself, if he can "move on" this fast and date my friend, does that mean he could have had feelings for her while we dated? Should I confront my friend.. or my now ex? or leave it alone
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I went through a similar experience with a guy I dated. He would call every day but never was available to do things, he’d cancel at last minute. I really cared for him but decided it was not the way I wanted to be treated, and decided to end it. It was really hard to do bland I questioned my decision too. There were reasons why you decided to end it and be happy you were honest with yourself and the other girl is not you and that’s okay. Trust yourself and be true to your choices. Hang in there and you will be stronger for it.👍
@help541, I applaud you that you were able to make the decision you needed to make and end an unhealthy relationship. I moved your new question to your original post about the break-up to connect with the people from who you got encouraging advice here:
- should I break up with my boyfriend? I did it. https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/should-i-break-up-with-my-boyfriend/
While it hurts to see him move on, you made the decision that you needed to make to move forward and find a healthy, loving relationship with someone in the future. Confronting your ex would not bring closure. Instead think about what relationship you may wish to have with your friend, like @gently suggested.
Geez, and your friend did not mention to you that she is now dating the same guy?
Ok, I would say a couple of things to your friend about this guy who seems to jump so easily. Ask the unexpected, because I think it would be impossible NOT to mention it.
You could say, "Just curious. What quality in both of us do you think that has attracted "Joe" to both of us?" Then change the subject. I will give you more satisfaction that "confronting her!
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help541, leave it.
Sorry about your close friend, though. And for her.
She may have just thought that you didn't have feelings for him anymore.
He may be trying to make you jealous.
I think you should stay close to her. She'll need the support of a friend, as she'll be suffering the pressure to do what she doesn't want to do. I would say don't ever degrade him in front of her, but you aren't asking that.
I still think you made the best move.