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@scain, yes, hospice will be a consideration as I get closer to the end. I recently retired as an Eldercargiver and have had wonderful experiences with my patients who went to hospice, whether at home, or another place. I'm less concerned with the actual event, or the circumstances leading up to it. I've experienced NDE (near death experience) so that is no worry to me. I'm more interested in how I can approach it joyfully, which I hope will minimize the impact for my loved ones. One person mentioned the death cafes, and that was very appealing to me, so I'm gonna check it out. Folks meeting over tea/coffee and cake to discuss, rationally, the process of this next great transition. I'm of Irish descent, and we say "cry when you are born, laugh when you die". That pretty much says it all, for me. Peace and Every Good.
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I never heard of death cafes but I love baked goods and iced coffee and sharing thoughts with like minded folks so I say count me in! Also if you have experienced a NDE you are miles ahead of us. My dad talked to me about his experience and said he no longer feared death so I remain hopeful. My daughter once asked me what if there is nothing after death and I had to take a step back as I never once had that thought. I grew up in the church but also an a product of living a very waspish life so nothing unpleasant was ever and to this day is never discussed among my 4 siblings. I am the outspoken member of that clan and feel true to myself but it is a lonely place to be. As I age I find that I am less willing to be the one in our family who shouts that the emperor has no clothes so I remain silent. It is refreshing for me to put my thought in writing here maybe for the first time in my life! I am not looking for converts just talking freely is enough. Thank all of you
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Thank you for the feedback. I had never heard of the death cafes I, too, am of Irish decent and I love the saying, thank you for sharing. I too have had a NDE almost 50 years ago, it was wonderful. I have no fear or anxiety. I have the local university in a nearby city that is authorized to pick my body up once declared dead and use for science. No cost to my kids, a bit less drama.
Caregiving has been one of many jobs/passions that I have had the honor to experience. I think the Death Cafe would be a great addition to my life, thanks again for sharing.