@nathandavid We’re not flies on the wall and we’re not seeing exactly what’s going on. I can only go by the words used here about the daughter in law, and the horror expressed that the daughter in law thinks she comes first.

My sister now that she IS the mother in law after having had a terrible one to begin with herself is ultra careful not to overstep. The mother in law also became a much loved member of my sister’s wider family once she stopped attacking my sister.