My son got married 2 years ago and they exclude us from their lives. His wife blames us for ruining their wedding. Wife did not include me in the wedding and when people asked I told them the truth. She says that I threw her under the bus and does not trust me. She has not come to family events and when she does she is cold faced to me and everyone notices. My son was coming alone to X'mas, birthdays, mother's day, father's day. This year my husband said he and my younger son are treating and if the older one is joining (he usually does). He said he has appts and is not coming. When my husband called him and asked him what he is doing for Mother's day he said he would call me. I am quite sad that this situation is getting worse. Why are they behaving like this?
All year we have been trying to reach out to the wife and being nice but she ignores us. I want to give up trying with them.